What if I want to come to couple’s counseling but my partner doesn’t?

While this is never ideal, it happens. It is always a good idea to take care of your own soul even if your partner isn’t interested in coming to counseling with you. Talking with a counselor about your feelings, depression or anxiety can bring relief and enable you to respond to your partner in ways that you would like to, instead of reacting out of fear or anger.

Will you as our therapist tell me (us) what to do

My role as your marriage counselor is to help you sort out your situation so that you can determine what steps you can take to feel more like a team and less like opponents. I won’t tell you what to do but I will support you as you navigate the options open to you. As your therapist I can help you and your partner understand why what you’re doing now is not working and teach you the skills you need to enhance your connection for a more fulfilling marriage partnership.

I have some pretty traumatic experiences in my history. The last thing I want to do is rehash it all. Is there any way around that?

I know that it can be very painful to recount the pain from our past. While it is sometimes helpful to share these events in the context of therapy, it can be overwhelming to make that appointment if we are not yet ready to go there. In this instance, I’d like to suggest starting with an energy psychology therapy. I am certified in Splankna therapy, which involves several energy healing practices including Thought Field Therapy (TFT), Neuro Emotional Technique (NET), and EMDR. Splankna therapy involves minimal talking and you would not have to give me a long history or even recount your most painful memories in order to find relief and healing. That is what makes it so amazing!  You can read more details about the practice of Splankna under the heading “Energy Psychology” located under “Services” on the home page header.

Can you guarantee I will feel better after therapy?

There are no guarantees with therapy but what I can tell you is that people who see a counselor are 6 times more likely to feel better than those who try to solve their problems alone. There are a few things you can do to insure that you get the most out of your sessions though. The first thing is to make a commitment to yourself to show up for scheduled sessions. Sometimes showing up is the hardest part. The second thing you can do is to do the process-work assigned to you by your counselor. Process-work allows you to apply what you are learning in sessions and can accelerate your growth and the effectiveness of each session. Finally, I remind you that in therapy as in life, you will get out of it as much as you are putting into it. And I can assure you that I will regularly ask you for your feedback as to how effective the sessions are in helping you achieve your determined goals.

What do you charge for therapy?

My rate is $90 for a therapeutic session of 50 minutes.

Do you take insurance for reimbursement?

Colorado Soul Care is a fee-for-service provider so I do not accept insurance. I understand that many people like the idea of having their insurance cover their counseling costs. However, I do not work with insurance companies because there are risks involved for you, my clients. The first is because when insurance companies get involved they require that I assign a mental disorder diagnosis to your case. This diagnosis would then go on your records. Such a diagnosis could create a problem for you if a potential employer were to ask on a job application if you “have ever been diagnosed with a mental disorder” or when applying for health or life insurance.

Another reason is that once I report your diagnosis to insurance for payment, confidentiality becomes at risk as the many employees of the insurance company handling your claim are now privy to your confidential records.

I want to help you in your life and relationships, not cause you more problems. Relationship problems are not mental disorders. That’s why I do not accept insurance for payment. I can accept credit cards or payment through your Health Savings Account.